Step 1 Understanding Why Your Teen Is Out of Control 11 -- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior 12 -- A Road Map of Defeat and a New Highway to Success 20 -- Left Fork in the Road: "I Will Not Take Charge" p24 -- Right Fork in the Road: "I Will Take Charge" 28 -- Third Fork in the Road: Fake It Until You Make It 28 -- Step 2 Writing an Ironclad Contract with Clear Rules and Consequences 29 -- Why Your Current Contracts Fail 32 -- How to Write a Contract That Works 33 -- Step 3 Troubleshooting: How to Think Two Steps Ahead of Your Teenager 67 -- Step 4 Button Pushing: Why Your Teen Wins Arguments 85 -- Step 5 Stopping Your Teenager's Seven Aces: Disrespect, Truancy, Running Away, Teen Pregnancy, Alcohol or Drug Abuse, Violence, and Suicide Threats 115 -- Act #1 Disrespect 122 -- Ace #2 Truancy or Failing Grades 138 -- Ace #3 Running Away 154 -- Ace #4 Teen Pregnancy or Sexual Promiscuity 171 -- Ace #5 Alcohol or Drug Abuse 189 -- Ace #6 Threats or Acts of Violence 216 -- Ace #7 Threats of Suicide 239 -- Step 6 There Is Strength in Numbers: How to Mobilize Outside Helpers Like Friends, Neighbors, and Police Officers 252 -- Step 7 Reclaiming Love Between You and Your Teenager 285 -- Fine Line Between Love and Hate 287 -- Timing Is Everything 292 -- Emotional Warm-ups 294 -- Five Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship with Your Teen 297 -- Six Strategies to Reclaim Love Between You & Your Teenager 300 -- Next Step What to Do If These Steps Fail or You Experience Special Circumstances: Single Parenthood, Divorce, Stepfamily, or Teen Emotional Problems 328 -- Get Support on the Internet and in Your Own Town 329 -- Understanding the Complexities of Single Parenthood, Divorce, Stepfamilies, and Teenage Emotional Problems 331 -- Single Parenthood 332 -- Difficult Divorces 336 -- Stepfamily Issues 337 -- Teenage Emotional Problems 340 -- Appendix Choosing the Right Counselor for You 343.